Marriage Tips Part 1

Having been married for twenty-five years, we have had many ups as well as many downs. Marriage I believe is what you make of it! Sure somedays the kids are crying, the dishwasher breaks, the car needs gas, etc. The list goes on! LOL! One thing that Iv'e noticed over the years is the "Tone" of your partner's voice can either be nails on a chalkboard (or) very nice to hear! We all have been at the point to where you maybe have wondered.....What the %^^&**am I doing here?LOL! Im here to tell you some Great Tips that We have found helpful in the Survival of our 25 years of marriage. Next time you respond to your spouse (try) to notice if you are sarcastic? That will only bring into play a Negative reaction. "Tone" is something We believe is a very important part of a happy marriage. The next thing is...Do you talk? In this day and age with all the "electronics" talking seems to be getting put on the back burner? You may be asking....."what" is there to talk about? Lots! Try, even as hard as somedays can be to ask your partner "how His (or) her day went? even if it was the most horrible day, "listen"! Your partner needs a supportive "Ear"! Now, Im not saying this is always easy, yet, in the long run, it really does improve your marriage! Also, Random acts of Kindness "Out of the Blue" is a Very Refreshing way of saying...I love You! I care about You! I'm here for you! Getting your partner a flower whether picked out of the yard (or) bought is a very kind gesture that "will" be remembered! Letting your spouse watch the sport you know you HATE! without complaining is another great thing to do! Also, if you find yourself ALWAYS negative (or) Picking on your spouse about stupid stuff is not good. Life is Very Short! Count to 10 if you feel yourself ready to say things you "know" are hurtful! Act like today is the Last day you will see your spouse! If you knew that it really was the Last day you would see your spouse, would you complain so much? I think not! Its Very easy to get caught up in the who is right (or) who is wrong syndrome! Bad, Bad, bad! That is a Score-keeper! You can only rub salt in a wound so many times before that person will just turn their back! One of the main keys for a great marriage is to RESPECT eachother (even if you dont quite agree), we all want to feel needed and respected as a person, a spouse, a mom, a dad, etc. I will post more to come and in the meantime....when is the last time you & your spouse played a simple boardgame such as monopoly (or) any of your childhood favorite games? What about riding bikes together! The key is to (not) get "Caught-up" so much in the daily grind to where you lose sight of (why) you married to begin with! Keep it fresh! A kind word (or) a kind deed goes a very, very long way!